Today’s highlights include a whole lot of misbehaving, a whole lot of reprimanding, and fifteen minutes of sheer bliss. In the middle of the afternoon, I asked both of my kids to take out a book. I set a timer and we all read silently. My five-year-old does not read but she sat leafing through the pages. When they each tried to interrupt the silence, I actually shushed them. I took a deep breath and finally relaxed. I sat and read an entire chapter of my own book. It was magical.
After a long day, tiring day at the zoo (failing miserably at Day 3’s challenge: no yelling), my son and daughter were in no mood to organize their bedrooms. As I assessed my daughter’s closet, she managed to pull out all her dresses, try them on, and drop them to the floor. Needless to say, we did not get very far.
That overused expression “dance like no one is watching” holds true for my children. My son has no problem busting a move walking through a mall, in a restaurant, or in our house (all of which he believes goes unnoticed), yet clams up when someone directs an innocent question at him. A few days ago, I used the word “embarrassed” in conversation and quickly realized that neither of my kids really understood its meaning.
So, you know what happened when I relinquished some control to my kids? A whole lot of nothing. My kids were particularly indecisive about pretty much everything today. In fact, they seemed to want me to make all their decisions for them. (I did make watching TV all day off limits as well as eating candy).
What do you want for breakfast? I don’t know, they responded. So, I gave them some options. What do you want to do today? I don’t know. So, I gave them some choices and we went to the pool. They did want to go home earlier than I would have liked and I didn’t try to convince them to stay any longer. My son couldn’t decide what to eat for lunch so skipped it. They didn’t have any opinions on dinner either. Overall, just an abnormally easy day. There was no fighting, no separating them, just happy outdoor play.
All day long, we tell our kids what to do. At school, teachers impose their expectations on them. How often do we allow our children to teach us about something they love?
If you want to engage my son in conversation, ask him about airplanes. If you want him to talk your ear off for an hour, ask him about his favorite game Airplane! 2.
It’s the first day of summer vacation and my over-planning-self went into overdrive today: dental appointments, followed by a visit to a local farm, an outdoor ice cream stand, and . . . oh, wait, I need to complete today’s challenge. Luckily, even at five o’clock, we still had a few more hours of daylight left. We drove straight to Rockefeller State Park, one of
My son completed first grade today. After school, we drove an hour plus to my brother’s house, swam, played, and drove home again. By the time I pulled into my driveway at 9:30 pm, the last thing I wanted to do was read a story, let alone make up a story. “Ready for my story?” I asked. My daughter pulled out a book. No, I
As a parent, you can only protect your kids from so much. I can’t reduce their risk of most types of cancers, but I can help to reduce their sun cancer risk. When people hear skin cancer, I think they often take it lightly. Maybe it’s because we all know someone who has had skin cancer; it’s the most common type often not serious. However, patients are getting diagnosed with melanoma at alarming rates in recent years.
OK, my PSA is over.
As you can see, I take my sun protection extremely seriously. I am always on the search for the best products.
Do you ever have those moments when you look at your children and think, wow, I am someone’s mother. I’m really a grown-up. Truth be told, I’m far from a young mom. I guess everyone feels that way. Time passes and suddenly, you start to sound like your mother.
Sometimes, the words come out of my mouth so fast that my inner teenager rolls her eyes and groans, “I can’t believe you just said that.”