Last week, my son rediscovered our neglected reward chart on my iPhone. The app has an easy set-up which allows you to individualize chores and behaviors for each child, as well as rewards. You can use pre-selected chores and rewards or write your own. You can also allocate the payout amount. For example, after 30 stars, we have a game night.
Right before bedtime, I explained the challenge of the day to the kids: that I would talk about someone special to me whom they’ve never met. I didn’t focus on the reason why they had never met him, that he had died almost thirty years ago. I wasn’t in the mood for all the questions that accompany the word “death” and really, this challenge was more about celebrating his life than anything else.